This approach is often used to discipline kids with ADHD, autism, or oppositional defiant disorder. However, it can be effective for all kids.
Discipline
Discipline strategies fall under positive or negative punishment. Positive punishment involves adding a consequence, while negative punishment involves taking something away.
Positive Punishment
Punishment is used to stop negative behaviors. And while it sounds confusing to refer to punishment as “positive,” in operant conditioning, the term positive means adding. So a positive punishment involves adding a consequence that will deter the child from repeating the behavior. Specific examples of positive punishment include:
Giving a child an extra chore as a consequence for lying when asked if they cleaned their roomTelling a child to write an apology letter after they hurt someone’s feelingsInsisting a child do a sibling’s chore after hurting their sibling
Negative Punishment
Negative punishment involves taking something away. Examples include taking away privileges or removing positive attention. Specific examples of negative punishment include:
Actively ignoring a temper tantrum Placing a child in time-out so they are not receiving any positive attention Taking away a child’s electronics privileges
Reinforcement
Reinforcement is a technique that encourages or discourages specific behavior. Like punishment, reinforcement can be positive or negative.
Positive Reinforcement
Positive reinforcement refers to giving a child something that reinforces good behavior. Discipline that relies mostly on positive reinforcement is usually very effective. Specific examples of positive reinforcement include:
Saying, “Great job putting your dish away before I even asked you to!”Allowing a child to earn time to play on their tablet because they completed their homeworkGiving a teenager a later curfew because they got on the honor roll
Negative Reinforcement
Negative reinforcement is when a child is motivated to change their behavior because it will take away something unpleasant. A child who stops a behavior because their parent yells at them is trying to get rid of the negative reinforcer (the yelling). Negative reinforcement should be used sparingly with kids as it is less effective than positive reinforcement. Specific examples of negative reinforcement include:
A child has been getting into arguments with peers at the bus stop. The child’s mother starts going to the bus stop with them every day. The child begins behaving so their mother won’t wait for the bus with them.A teenager complains about school during the ride to school every morning. The child’s father turns on talk radio loudly to drown him out. The next day the teenager doesn’t complain about anything because they don’t want to listen to talk radio.Parents nag their child to do chores. The child does their chores to make the nagging stop.
How to Use Behavior Modification
You can’t force a child to change their behavior but you can change the environment so they’ll be more motivated to change. Behavior modification is about modifying the environment in a way that your child has more incentive to follow the rules.
Consistency is the key to making behavior modification effective. If you praise your child for doing their chores, use praise every time they do their chores until it becomes a habit. Then, you can gradually phase out your praise over time.Negative consequences should also be consistent. If your child only gets sent to time-out once out of every five times they hit someone, your consequences won’t be effective. Your child needs to go to time-out each and every time they do the unwanted behavior.Adults need to be united. Behavior modification also works best when adults work together as a team. If teachers, daycare providers, and other caregivers use the same consequences and rewards, a child’s behavior is likely to change even faster.
Keep in mind that behavior modification should be customized to your child’s specific needs. The strategies that work well for one child might not work with another.
